Sexual Deposits-A True Life Narrative About Pimping In The Nigerian Banking Sector By Olisakwe Ukamaka Evelyn

Ukamaka Olisakwe
By Olisakwe Ukamaka Evelyn

As a new employee in Ecobank, back in 2008, we were given targets from the Head Office – to ‘get’ deposits, like they were hanging on trees and all we were to do was ‘pluck’ the monies. Most women told me horrific stories of how they had affairs with men and women alike, all in the name of getting ‘deposits’.

One particular incident stays with me:

I had walked into the office of this well known Independent Oil Marketer in my region – my church-member, to sell him my bank services, even though every other bank was offering same services. In his expansive office, he offered me this plush chair to sit on, and then he hastily went to get me a drink.

I sat calmly, as my heart thudded in my chest. I tried to think of what to tell him since all I had planned to recite had evaporated immediately upon beholding his lewd smile. He wore that same slimy smile as he offered me the bottle of Maltina.

“My pretty baby, what brings you to my humble office?” He was frenzied with excitement. He brought a low chair and sat opposite me, his knees almost grazing mine. He didn’t give me chance to catch my breath and confidence. My stomach quivered in fear. He knew this game well.

“Sir..”

“Call me, Ken,” He quipped in. He was almost as old as my father.

“My name is Ukamaka Olisakwe.”

“Uka-baby, don’t be shy. Be free with me. Talk to me.” He quickly grabbed my shoulders, shook them, and then left me again. He launched into a lot of nonsense about how I looked and how he liked my outfit, especially my shoes. I squirmed all the while. “Don’t be shy.” He held my hands in his. I stared at him, and then pulled my hands away.

He asked how long I had been in the banking industry. I said I was new. He beamed. He said he would give me a deposit that would shock my manager. He will make me the envy of all in my branch. Ha! “Do you know if I call your MD and told him I am going to give you N100, 000, 000 in fixed deposit you would be given double promotion? What is even your salary? Do you have an official car yet? I am going to shock, baby. Just ask about me. Do you know how many ladies ‘chase’ me for deposit? I just like you.”

I stared at my palms. My wedding ring glistened. I felt sad, then angry. I knew if I were a man he would not be this informal with me. He would have been respectful and might even have engaged me in a talk on politics or football or the financial markets. But I was a woman, and as expected, I deserved none of those ‘gentlemanly’ discussions. What do we know, we women? We should be seen as sex objects- as toys to be played with, that’s the best respect you could give to a woman. Right? Not as human equals, but as objects to massage men’s ego.

“Do you want to have sex with me?”, I blurted.

The smirk disappeared. He looked a little shaken. Then he quickly began to regain the lost balance.

“Ehhh, you are one naughty girl..” The dirty smile crept out again.

“I am not naughty.”

He laughed out loud. “I like you. You are fearless.”

“I didn’t know I was supposed to be afraid of you.”

“No. No. I didn’t mean that. Just surprised by your boldness.” He was laughing still.

“You don’t want to see me bold, Sir,” I said. I wanted to tell him that only a coward, piss-poor-excuse-for-a-man would disrespect a woman this way. I wanted to scream in his face that only fools like him would turn an official visit as an opportunity to browbeat a woman into sex. Another woman might cower, but I am not another woman. I am Ukamaka. If I ever wanted to engage into an affair with you, I would, not because I was forced into it, but because I wanted it. But I quietly stood, patted down my dress and said:

“Thank you and have a nice day, Sir.”

I got to our office and told my supervisor, the good man, Ugochukwu Nwamara, of my challenges. He did the best thing for us – the marketers. He introduced to us the concept of ‘Team Marketing’. He made us confident. He thought us that women should be shown respect not because they should be pitied, but because they are Human Beings, too.

I wish other women were lucky, but it is sad that this modern day slavery is still practiced!
 
 
 
Olisakwe Ukamaka Evelyn is a banker and writer. She is the author of the hit Nigerian novel, EYE OF A GODDESS. In addition to writing, she has a passion for promoting literature, women and children rights.

 Her blogs can be read at http://sueddie.wordpress.com/2012/12/04/sexual-deposits-by-olisakwe-ukam...

 

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next time dress up very well - when seeking bank deposits

Next time, Don't lead burning fire into temptation of a bigger explosion - by bringing fuel very close to it.

Dress up very well next time, OK! my young sister! I will advise you wear a Muslim long garb when going for that kind of business - that will probably make the man sit up. (lol)

Seriously, You know Nigeria is a lawless country, continue to struggle to fight for what is right - especially with all those crazy professors at the universities punishing those young ladies in the name of grades.

How will they feel if such evil is done to their sisters???

Well, somehow, somewhere, everybody will reap whatever we sow in others .... one way or the other.

Well done Ukamaka! 'Your man' was shocked!!

Were matrimony on my mind, I'd do better than this man. You've tried though.

The female folk should on their part cover all the loopholes. Have you noticed some trying to implicate you; that you had a hand in it. Those will easily harass. Believe me they're imagining things, & their only reason is that your 2FACE is visible.

Man has never known a greater terrorism than the female body. It takes some fear of the jail & hellfire to keep us in check.

What saved you was A CERTAIN PHRASE you uttered.

Saudi Lamido Sanusi -SLS

SLS MUST HEAR THIS!!!

provocative dress of course

your photograph shows you are a beautiful young woman but with provocative attire. If you had gone to that office in a corporate not revealing dressing, he would not come over and start to feel your body. You did well by refusing him but think of your outfit. Majority of marketers dress provocatively to gain customers and if possible go to bed with them and make extra income. Please check your dress sense as a married woman

provocative dress of course

your photograph shows you are a beautiful young woman but with provocative attire. If you had gone to that office in a corporate not revealing dressing, he would not come over and start to feel your body. You did well by refusing him but think of your outfit. Majority of marketers dress provocatively to gain customers and if possible go to bed with them and make extra income. Please check your dress sense as a married woman

AHA!!

Your wedding ring my foot!! your photo up here shows only 1% of your body covered. One can already start to see the groove between your breasts which dignity lies only in being covered. Then that fake, false hair you are wearing. You are part of promoting the culture no matter what you say here. Show me a modest/decently dressed woman and I'll show you a truly self respecting woman. Aha!!

AHA!!

Your wedding ring my foot!! your photo up here shows only 1% of your body covered. One can already start to see the groove between your breasts which dignity lies only in being covered. Then that fake, false hair you are wearing. You are part of promoting the culture no matter what you say here. Show me a modest/decently dressed woman and I'll show you a truly self respecting woman. Aha!!

HYPOCRISY!!

Your wedding ring my foot!! your photo up here shows only 1% of your body covered. One can already start to see the groove between your breasts which dignity lies only in being covered. Then that fake, false hair you are wearing. You are part of promoting the culture no matter what you say here. Show me a modest/decently dressed woman and I'll show you a truly self respecting woman. Aha!!

Great post...It's however "He

Great post...It's however "He taught us" not "He thought us that"....:)

Typical. Women will always

Typical. Women will always tell you the one they turned down. Not the one they agreed with.

You are on points.... That is

You are on points....
That is definitely the case.

sexual deposits

The banking industry should stop sending women to men , and men to women for deposits if they want to be sincere . They know that the ladies will get chased by men , and men get seduced by women money bags .

UKAMAKA'S CHALLENGE

Kudos to my sister Ukamaka and more to her boss who responded humanly and unusually (considering the vogue).

BELOW MY EXPECTATION

BEYOND THE SENSATIONAL HEADING, I FOUND NOTHING INTERESTING IN THIS PIECE TO WARRANT SR PUBLISHING IT. STORIES OF BANKERS USING PRETTY LADIES AS BAIT TO MAKE MONEYBAGS BANK WITH THEM ARE COMMON PLACE AND AS OLD AS OUR BANKS THEMSELVES. THIS IS ONLY A NARRATION OF ONE WOMAN'S EXPERIENCE AND IT IS NOT EVEN SPECTACULAR. ONE CUSTOMER WANTED TO MAKE A MOVE ON HER AND SHE WALKED OUT ON HIM. WHAT SPECTACULAR ABOUT THAT? GREAT STORIES COME FROM THE UNUSUAL AND THE UNEXPECTED NOT VANILLA STUFF LIKE THESE. BESIDES, THE HEADING IS VERY MISLEADING. WE ALL KNOW THE MEANING OF PIMP AND PIMPING. I SEE NO ACT OF PIMPING HERE OR IS IT THE BANKS THAT SEND THESE LADIES OUT THAT ARE THE PIMPS? I GUESS SR SHOULD LEAVE STUFFS LIKE THESE TO THE LINDA IKEJIS OF THIS WORLD TO PUBLISH. YOU MUST MAINTAIN STANDARDS YOU HAVE CREATED.

Sexual deposits.

Ukamaka, you are a brave woman and by your action have shown respect to your husband and self. The rot going on in that country especially in the banking industry and universities where lecturers use their positions to coerce women into beds for grades is appalling. That shows the level of decadence in that country and only God will help us.

She is right

making a move to a lady is not bad but what is bad is the circumstance that surrounds the move.

@ Koko, And Others Like Him

What is wrong with you Koko? I bet the front of your trousers are all wet looking at the beautiful Mrs. Olisakwe's picture. Mrs. Olisakwe, you are a very beautiful woman and don't let the comments of Koko and his like bring you down. Koko must be a moslem who like their women to be all covered up like Ms. Hannatu. Well Mr. Koko, I have a news for you: we dont see any reason why a beautiful woman as Mrs. Olisakwe should hide, or should I say, cover up her beauty. Even DMB (Dave Mathews Band) encourages women to "lift up their skirts a little more...and show their beauty to the world." Again, who can ever forget the picture of President Obama, President Sarkosy of France, and Italian Prime Minister, Silvio Berloscuni turning their heads in Italy to admire a young lady that passed them by. So, Koko and co, suck it!

@ Mr frankwilliams As a man I

@ Mr frankwilliams

As a man I have my right to make any move against any lady but you ladies have your own right to say NO or YES.

I hate men who rapes but making a move against ladies is allowed.

Saying what I want is my own right and using my money power to get that I want is the reason why I laboured so had to make it in life.

So... your money power gives you the right to chase another man's wife ehn? And if he is a poor man... then his daughters are at your mercy too? That is why you 'laboured so hard to make it in life' abi? Should you continue in this evil, may the LORD who sets up kings and brings them down strip you of all that empowers you to commit wickedness. May he remove the resources that facilitate your iniquity and may you be spoiled as you have spoiled others, and may you understand that 'the race is not to the swift...but it is GOD who shows mercy' and that is why you have 'made it in life' Amen!
Oh Lord, Let the wickedness of the wicked come to an end!

may I ask how you were dressed?

may I ask how you were dressed? Sometimes what matters is not only how we are dressed, but how we are perceived!

Sexual deposits

I maintain an account with one of the "new generation" banks. One day a female staff of the bank started a conversation with me as I was about to cash a cheque and ended it by giving me her phone number.Please what did she want me to do with it? I think that female bank staff are as guilty as their customers on this issue.

You are wrong lady

As a man I have my right to make any move against any lady but you ladies have your own right to say NO or YES.

I hate men who rapes but making a move against ladies is allowed.

Saying what I want is my own right and using my money power to get that I want is the reason why I laboured so had to make it in life.

So stop painting men black if you are so good do your part.

I have a lady tenant in my house who always say men are bad but under one year this very lady has change house girls over seven times and driver three times and one day I asked her if you are man how many ladies would you have change. Women stop complaining about men flirting was old sin even Abraham committed even when God directly spoke with him. Sex is good for the body and soul and its for those who has the means that play it.

who cares

who cares

Re: Sexual Deposits

Nice one, Ukamaka. Unfortunately, the practice has not ebbed. Girls, women and men are easy prey with the active encouragement of bank leadership. Of course, there are few exceptions as demonstrated by Ukamaka. It's mind-boggling why men especially and knowingly wish to seduce a married woman. It speaks of the lack of respect for the woman, her spouse, kid(s) and extended family members. It is unAfrican. And then, which sector is better? From primary school to university so-called lecturers (with little intellect) subjugate students. Same lecturers force students to buy plagiarised mimeographs as books at cut-throat rates. Everyone wants immoral and material satisfaction as if that's all there is in living. About political leaders? They steal as as a fashion and as if money guarantees eternal life. Pity

Money miss road

Pornography, strip clubs and prostitution should be legslised in Nigeria. These vices give women control of their sexuality. So as opposed to being victims,women are able to take charge of the game and adequately deal with the idiotic, mugu, jew-men, PDP money-miss-roads in our mist.

Moral High ground

And the moral of the story is...????

We all flirt to get what we want irrespective of the industry you work in... Men and even women always try to use their power to get sexual favours... Remember the story of Joeseph in the bible, please note that there are several house boys, drivers, gatemen and Male bank managers and CEO that get indecent proposal daily and a yes or no to these proposal will equate to either promotion or deprivation.

My sister you dint compromise in that situation... i pray and hope for your sake God does not test u beyond what you can handle...just say amen and leave story

make i hear word

The one you slept with we dont get to know, its only the one that is old and unappealing that gets publicized. make i hear word jareh

The Rule of the Game in Modern Banking

This's not a news, but a common practice by most vulnerable bankers (mostly young pretty girls, whether married or unmarried, including widow and divorced or separated), who are in marketng department and wish to sustain their jobs, as well as to get promoted.

my sista, i was a banker

my sista, i was a banker before i left nigeria, i'm thrilled to see someone who has same mentality, cos my colleagues thot i was crazy for vehemently refusing to conform to the norm, i was 26 then and i saw pepper in the hands of my customers and worse still bosses, glad u have a great boss, mine were the opposite but i'm delivered, one day i would have the time to recount my gory, chilling, jaw breaking experiences, pls keep up the good work, May God give u Grace to continue to keep your integrity and DIGNITY intact.

Quality of Post

Sahara, please Mr President just gave you a pat on the back. The time has come for you to seive your articles. Quality writing.

This write up is particularly too watery to be published by sahara.

Is she still in banking?

Is that the practice in Ecobank?

Which woman right is she promoting?

What is her advice foe women and what have they done?

The article is floating.

Nice One

Nice one there, How I wish other bank marketers will emulate your boldness especially the married ones among you.