To Mother On This Mother’s Day By Hannatu Musawa

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Hannatu Musawa

Motherhood is, without doubt, the most joyous and altering experience in my life and the life of almost all mothers. Of all the achievements and pleasures we enjoy in life, none makes a woman more proud than her role as a mother. It is the most wearing, thrilling and remarkable journey and as we approach Mother’s Day on the 12th of May, I would like to take the opportunity to exemplify the unique challenges and delights of motherhood, reveal its deep significance and in doing that wish all mothers a Happy Mother’s Day.

My daughter is the first person I speak to every morning when I wake up and the last person I speak to before I go to sleep at night and as I watch her grow into a very special, beautiful, bright, brilliant, pious and virtuous young lady, together with all my other children, I realize that one of the greatest aspects of motherhood is the appreciation of my mother that I have learnt just by being a mother myself.

Children will always have a special place in their mother’s hearts and mothers will always have a unique place in their children’s lives. The connection between mother and child that begins when the woman is pregnant with her child and progresses through  to adulthood will always be the most special and remarkable bond of life. The feature that sets mothers apart is her everlasting love for her children and that love transforms into a unique, emotional, unconditional and telepathic relationship because their understanding of the deep love they have for each other need never be spoken.
Mothers are amazing and apart from literally bearing their children, they are ready to bear adversity; liability and hope for their children but at the same time carry pleasure, adoration, compassion, understanding and ideals.

A mother, with her out of control emotions, can exhibit the most bizarre display. She smiles instead of cries in front of her children so as not to alarm them, sings instead of screams so as not to scare them. When she is happy for her children she cries for joy instead of laughing. A mother is always ready to fight to the ends of the earth in order to stand up for her children. She is prepared to go without, so that her children can go with. A mother always shows strength for her children even when she realises that there is no strength left. She knows that a reassuring smile, a hug or a kiss can heal her children’s broken hearts.

The one common feature of every mother is her Olympic winning ability to worry profusely. For most of her life a mother worries. She worries that she has not done her best for her children; she worries about how the world will treat them. She is scared about what their past was and about the secrets the future holds for them. She is petrified about absolutely everything to do with her children and about absolutely nothing, as long as it has to do with them. When things don’t go right in her children’s lives, when the world seems against them, a mother always has the magic touch of making them feel better. A mother always puts the needs of her children before hers, no matter the price she has to pay. She is always ready to give the unconditional love her children need, even when they make a mess of their lives and no matter the amount of bad choices they make. At the times when her children fail to show their appreciation for all she means to them, or the times when their actions threaten the fabric of their lives, a mother’s love will always overshadow every possible wrong in her children’s lives. When her children are ill, even if she is ill herself, a mother is always ready to take care of her babies. A mother will always nurture her children throughout their lives, tolerate their attitude and misbehaviour, and will always be there to encourage them. A mother will do all this and more because, that is what mothers do.

Often, being a mother is an exacting job, one which exposes us to several moments of anguish before our children grow up and that anguish doesn’t disappear even when they are grown up. Mothering is a learning process and a mother is only human and as such very able to make mistakes. Even though most of us have a visual of our mothers as being perfect, especially during childhood, no woman is perfect and no mother can perform her job of mothering flawlessly. All mothers are capable of right and wrong, committing gaffs, missing the mark, but despite the mistakes she makes, we still must appreciate her because she is still our beloved mother.

Mothers are the most special people in this world and motherhood is the most special gift. For all of us whose mothers are living today, we should show her gratitude for all of our battles she has fought, we should make every day the most wonderful day of her life. Sometimes the demands of everyday take over and we may loose sight of the most imperative facet of life; the act of loving people around us, especially our mothers. Even when we speak and see our mothers regularly, we don't always get a chance or take the opportunity to tell them how much we love and appreciate all they are and have been in our lives. For all of us whose mothers are no longer with us, we should pray for them constantly, thank God for giving us the blessing of knowing them and using them to help us experience the wonderful love we had of being their children. We must continue to spread and teach the message of love that they taught us.

In the past two years, I had been very ill and spent the vast majority of that time in hospital. And through that challenge of pain and uncertainty, one face, one voice, one beacon of support stood head and shoulders above all others; that of my mother Hajia Ladi Musawa. From the start of my illness right to the point when I stood up and became healthy again, my mother never wavered in her support to the extent that the staff at the hospital used to make fun of her. She was always there at my bedside with an unfaltering determination, courage and, of course, a beautiful smile. She prayed for me, sang for me, bathed me and cradled me in the same way she probably did when I was a little girl.

During some of my very dark moments, at the time of my illness, I often doubted whether I could have pulled through had I not had her constant encouragement, her spiritual and physical support, and her undying love. And every time I lost hope, every time I felt drained, it only took a glance at the reassuring face of my mother and the whisper of her prayers for me to have the strength to fight on.

Anyone who knows my mother, Hajia Ladi Musawa, will be aware of what a difficult task it is for me to attempt to find the words to describe her. A role model to all who know and love her, my mother lives her life with great humility and her selflessness and kindness to others knows no bounds. She is a fantastic person who has been blessed with a sense of humour, a kind nature, and an unassuming ability to make all those around her feel special and loved.

My mother has affected me and her five other children for the rest of our lives. Her great character and her view on life have inspired us to try and be better people. She has always pushed us to look at people on the inside and not their appearance or identity. She never judges but always connects with people by their hearts and their values to see if they are good people, and that has always made us want to do so too. Because of my mother when I walk into a room I see people for who they are on the inside, and not the outside. She is my inspiration in life, and the one who I look at as a perfect person. She has impacted me in so many ways, and I will never really be able to thank her enough.

A mother is invariably where life itself begins and in her heart is where the magic of life lives. And on this Mother’s day and every other day, I thank God for my mother and all mothers. I give honour to every Nigerian woman who plays the role of a mother because as mothers, we are deserving of praise and so much more.

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thank you

well as a regular reader of your column , i must congratulate you on jobs well done. A mother is an irreplaceable gem, those that have them, TREASURE THEM.those that have lost them, pray for them.. either way its a win-win situation. i believe EVERYDAY should be mothers day, and fathers day, and childrens day.we all pray that Allah blesses our days and showers us with enough wisdom to appreciate one another.

HAPPY MOTHER's DAY BY HANNATU

This is the third article of this columnist named Hannatu Musawa, a mother of children, Athat I have read. Hannatu no doubt all mother lovers like me appreciate you and your write up. I had in my first comment after reading you a second time, averred with due humility that God has put too much only in one person, beauty and brains together.

Your style of presentation plus your choice of diction make your write ups fantastically impressive. Nigeria is actually very well blessed with quality human resources and this is why we should all pray that Nigeria remains one indivisible and united country. I tell everybody to give another 20 years and Nigeria will the country to beat. Please keep up with your literary exercises for they excite some of us.

Give our regards to your children and their father. Cheers.

Chief Christopher Udoye OKAFOR.

SWEET MOTHER, I NO GO FORGET YOU.......!

What Hannatu put in words in this write-up is what Nico Mbanga musically delivered some years ago to the whole world. "Sweet Mother" was warmly received by "all tongues in all climes" to the extent that United Nations tacitly sanctioned the song as "world anthem" for "Mother's Day" wherever you are. It's a song so true lyrically, so danceable musically. Nico's attempt to balance with a "Sweet Father" follow-up simply couldn't match the beauty and candidness in "Sweet Mother". Those suicide bombers who kill for Boko Haram and referred to in Hannatu's last write-up have lost everything, including the opportunity to eulogize their respective "Sweet Mother". What an irretrievable LOSS. And if you are in Nico Mbanga's description: Happy "Mother's Day" wherever you are!

SWEET MOTHER, I NO GO FORGET YOU.......!

What Hannatu put in words in this write-up is what Nico Mbanga musically delivered some years ago to the whole world. "Sweet Mother" was warmly received by "all tongues in all climes" to the extent that United Nations tacitly sanctioned the song as "world anthem" for "Mother's Day" wherever you are. It's a song so true lyrically, so danceable musically. Nico's attempt to balance with a "Sweet Father" follow-up simply couldn't match the beauty and candidness in "Sweet Mother". Those suicide bombers who kill for Boko Haram and referred to in Hannatu's last write-up have lost everything, including the opportunity to eulogize their respective "Sweet Mother". What an irretrievable LOSS. And if you are in Nico Mbanga's description: Happy "Mother's Day" wherever you are!

My mom...

Thank you Hannatu for such beautiful words. My mother Fatima was also a gem of a mother. She was my confidant, cheerleader, sounding-board, couselor, worrier-in-chief, prayer worrior and best friend. Unfortunately, I lost my gem without warning a little less than 5years ago and it still breaks my heart to think of her.She didn't even live long enough to see me become a mom. Till date, when the troubles of this crazy world become overwhelming,I cry for my mom. I hope I can be half the mom she was to my son.You see, she was born to be a mom and loved every moment of it.Happy mother's day Hajiya, I know you are always right behind me even in death.

mami is a relic

hanny, words cant describe mami enough, there are a few mothers like her left on earth, in fact they are becoming extinct.i am a living testimony of who and what mami is, she epitomises love. may be love is the closest word in meaning to describe mami.
may she continue to be a source of happiness and harbinger of glad tidings to whoever comes across her. she is a superb mother indeed.

I thought their religion is

I thought their religion is against western culture. is their Mother's day celebration in the North?

Contrubution

Go ahead Ranki dade,u no all animals r'nt equal even thou some r more equal than others,"MR NO NAME"pls take note that she's only of one thing' not all things' and cant say all things at a time' u should know.

Hannatu! .... You don "tyre" for HARD VIEW?

So Hannatu, you no do "Hard View" again? Nonsense. Spiuuuuuusssssssssshhhhhhhhh........

My oil money is NOT meant for aliens. Whether from Bokostani North or Killer/Fraudulent/Assasin West, alien is alien. The United Republic of the SS&SE must control its resources. It is non negotiable. Case closed.

Verily verily I say unto you, Nigeria is not a country bur a continent. Break up NOW!

Long live the United Republic of the SS&SE

Even Though...

I will normally not respond to this article, but I was moved by the way you described the way your mother took good care of you when you were sick. So, say happy mother's day to your mom on my behalf.

This is better Hajia..BUT WHERE IS MAIGIDA, YOUR HUSBAND??

This is MUCH better Hajiya Hannatu; STICK to topics u r familiar with & STOP Stirring The Hornets Nest with your Sentimental BH articles, or u gonna get STUNG in a Bad place!
I am on d same page with u wen u eulogise yur mum, cos our Mothers r Generally WONDERFUL women who gave/Give their ALL 4us! But this part of yur write-up left me wondering;

"My daughter is the first person I speak to every morning when I wake up and the last person I speak to before I go to sleep at night.."

I'm just wondering wia Mallam Musawa is? I hope u r not Widowed? Or r u in a long distance relationship? Hmm..anyway, none of my BiZ! All d same;Please raise up yur kids d same way u we're raised..Happy mothers Day to u Too..

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